Society puts a lot of pressure on parents to be perfect, especially when it comes to moms. Decisions like breastfeeding vs. bottle feeding, homeschooling vs. public schooling vs. private schooling, and comforting a crying child vs. letting them “cry it out” have left many moms feeling like they can’t make any “right” decisions in parenthood, leaving them feeling guilty and anxious.

Mom-of-two and illustrator Jamina Bone is very familiar with these feelings, particularly after living through postpartum depression after having her second child. To help advocate for other moms who have experienced similar feelings of not doing “enough” or “doing everything wrong,” she’s started drawing illustrations that depict many of the honest, difficult parts of motherhood that are often ignored. Often captioned with “Still a good mom,” Jamina’s work reminds struggling moms that they’re not alone and what they’re doing — even if it’s not perfect — is enough.

Take a look at some of her creations below:

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🎨: @mommingwithtruth Self-less or Self-CONTEMPT? Society gives us props for being selfless. But really they’re saying “You should be everything and do everything for your kids at the expense of your mental and physical health.” And most of us do it… why?! – – Could it be that we actually despise who we are? Could it be that there is a deep guilt or shame when we want peace or compassion? Or when we want to feel safe and held? Or taken care of? When we feel blessed for all the things around us and feel terrible for wanting change. – – Mom-Martyrdom is the topic this week for #unitedartistmoms and I want to challenge you to dig deep and see if it’s stemming from a self-hate or dislike and allow me to help you change this thinking. I have two ways to help and they are both free downloads. 1. HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF EVEN WHEN ITS TOO HARD- This printable includes 5 steps to help you to take an inventory of your environments/influences and to assess what is feeding you as an investment into your overall health. – 2. SELF-CARE TEMPERATURE CHECK- this is a printable tool you can use to assess what your needs are in the moment or for the week. The idea is that if you know your needs from wants you can advocate for them and keep from falling into the mindset that you need to do and be everything. 🤜🤛 – – You can find these free resources on my website. www.mommingwithtruth.com/free Join the art prompts here with the hashtag #unitedartistmoms and don’t forget to follow us hosts! @_nikalola_ @growupbrite @raising_eagles @lifeofleisurecomics @mommingwithtruth @gina_mcmillen @mrshervidesign

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🖊&🎨: @mommingwithtruth 👉 You’re working from home And there’s too many tasks How will you find time When the time goes so fast? The distractions are plenty And you’re hanging onto hope Do you hire a nanny or try to cope? You feel guilt when you’re working And when you’re with baby. You’re failing no matter the choices you make. See the screen time adds up and your work pays you little. You’re pulled and you’re pulled til’ your insides feel brittle. But there’s hope, see the moment of struggle is fleeting The feeling of pressure and guilt is misleading. “They grow up so fast” yes, they do but stop there. You know in your heart what is best for their care. So do what you need in this chapter of your story Build yourself up while the weather is stormy You’re still a good mom Whether you have help or have no one Take a step forward Set your journey in motion -Jamina Bone Poem from the book, “Still a Good Mom” coming THIS YEAR!!! Stay tuned! Every mama needs this kind of inspiring pep talk. Coming to YOUR HOME THIS YEAR!! I’m so thankful for my patrons who are helping this dream come true! If you want to be a part of making these things happen or are in need of community to help push you forward, join us! Link is in my bio! – – – – #booksformoms #bluedotproject #bluedotproject2020 #postpartumdepressionsupport #postpartumdepression #postpartumjourney #momguilt #momguiltisreal #mommingwithtruth #momminghard #workingmomlife #workingmoms #workathomemom #momminglikeaboss #mommingainteasy #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodrising #motherhoodintheraw #momencouragement #encouragementformoms #motherhoodunderstood #stillagoodmombook #stillagoodmom

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👩‍🎨: @mommingwithtruth 👉What is it about stepping away from our babies that leave us feeling like we’ve abandoned them? – – Were talking about setting standards that fit your family this week in the community. What does this mean? Do you have your own standards or do you take on what society deems being a good mother is? Based on resent studies, time-intensive parenting is seen across the board by parents as being “good parenting”. This means we perceive a good mom to be sitting with their kids daily for a lengthy amount of time on learning or nurturing. Did you know that by the time your child is in elementary school the difference between spending 15 min and over is insignificant!? Did you also know we are spending more time with our kids now than ever before?! – – Take some time this week to define what you and your partner believe being a good mother/parent is. Being consistent in some areas is better than being inconsistent in all areas. Let’s stop comparing our journey with everyone else’s. Lest accept that we are all in different places. 🤝🙋‍♀️🤜🤛 – – If you want to link the the article about this topic, DM me. 😉🖤 If you want to work on overcoming your obstacles to move forward in your journey, join the community. Link in bio. 💕🤟 – – (Follow @mommingwithtruth for more ways to move forward in your journey through motherhood. ) – – – #mommingwithtruth #stillagoodmom #maternalmentalhealth #doingwhatittakes #settingstandards #boundariesbeginwithyou #depressionhelp #momcommunity #momshelpingmoms #momshelpingmomssucceed #icanhelp #helpthroughdepression #depressedmom #sadmom #sadmoms #thereishope #findinghope #postpartumdepression #ppd #ppdppa #ppa #postnatalmentalhealth #mentalhealth #postpartumdepressionsurvivor

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Follow 👩‍🎨 @mommingwithtruth 👉Who’s been there?! ✋✋✋✋✋✋✋✋✋ Here’s a little snippet of more to come!! This one is written by yours truly and inspired by @quiet_kayak_ and her #poemsforpostpartumdepression and my good friend and beautiful soul, @nika.reneepoet – – – It’s the end of the day and bedtime’s underway. One needs to sleep and the other wants to play. Mama, take a breath take that moment you need. Some time is okay if it helps you succeed. That thought that creeps in on your moment of weakness when your guard was down and your energy depleted? Don’t own it. Don’t keep it. Don’t let it rule you. Those lies don’t define what you know to be true! Remember the love you’ve built so strong! Let that be the reminder, YOU ARE STILL A GOOD MOM! – Jamina Bone – – – If you like this, there is more to come when Patreon launches in 7 DAYS!! There will be 3 options to add value to your life. – 👆1st is structured community for $3/month. I can’t stress how important it is to have women who wholeheartedly know what you are going through to talk to INSIDE the struggle. – 🤘2nd, for only $5/mo you get behind the scenes patron only content like this poem and other projects I am working on, as well as extra content for transformation in the community, and extra freebies like live coffee with me and downloadables! – 🤟3rd, only 20 will be able to join me in this special group. $20/mo you can help dictate the content I put out there. We will share drink recipes and drink them live while we discuss issues and how to break free. This will also be like a Mastermind group where we work closely on transforming ourselves for the better and be able to impact more lives in the process. – – – #transformation #transforminglives #transformingmoms #stillagoodmom #maternalmentalhealth #thismomentdoesntdefineyou #doesntdefineyou #depressionhelp #postpartumdepressionsurvivor #mommypoem #postpartumdepressionsupport #youarestrongerthanyouknow #breathemama #beingagoodmom #goodmom #goodmomshavescarythoughts #goodmoms #mommingwithtruth #momminghard #mommingainteasy #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodintheraw #maternalhealth

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👩‍🎨: @mommingwithtruth 👉 Let’s get real here. Why do we give people so much power into our lives? – – I remember clearly how my MIL would tell me how to parent. She wanted baths every night followed my a lathering of baby oil. 🙄 She would tell me to love on that baby when she would cry but would also be the first to give her up when the fussiness started. I felt as though she questioned every parenting choice back then. – But, let’s think about that… our parents and in-laws don’t see us as grown ups yet (and we may not really act like one yet). Our friends before kids may not know what all it takes to take on parenthood. What really matters? Do they really have the right solutions for you? – – If they are not ACTUALLY helping, it is OK to say no thank you to their visits. It’s time we start setting boundaries and focus on finding YOUR family’s truths. Marriage struggling? Do what needs to be done. Don’t let your mind wonder to what others will think because their opinion won’t fix your intimacy issues. If your baby is up all night, talk to your partner to find a solution. Yes you can tap into your support network for help bet let’s put up some boundaries. Tell them what they can help with. – – My mom lived with us for 3 months after our first was born and we told her we wanted her to help with dishes, cleaning, and cooking. We asked her to take the first wake up shift so that we could get some sleep. It was amazing! Because we set boundaries, she knew how to help. I can’t say that for my MIL 🤣 but she showed her love differently. – – Toxic friendships and family members have a way of keeping us from growing and moving forward. Your little win can easily be twisted into a failure. If you have toxic family and friendships, start by setting boundaries. Make it clear. (“You can visit for 30 min while I take a shower and do some laundry.” “You can FaceTime with the baby 1x per week but will not offer advice.” Etc) – – – #mommingwithtruth #toxicrelationships #toxicfamily #toxicfriends #illustration #motherhood #newmomproblems #boundaries #settingboundaries

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👩‍🎨: @mommingwithtruth 👉Oh Mama… Those thoughts you have don't define your love for your baby or your family. You are still a good mom. – "Sleep when the baby sleeps" they say, but when have you showered? When have you felt peace? The constant needs of everyone else don't need to rule your existence. – – I'm telling you this as I'm sitting here realizing how badly I crave silence. A peaceful shower, a closed door crap when nobody is expecting me to be anywhere or do anything, and undisturbed moments at my computer working for something other than my kids and this house. My hair is in need of a haircut, but I don't take the time to work it out and make it happen. My color in my hair is fading… much like how I’m feeling. (This is an exaggeration, but you get the point) Don't let yourself fade, Mama. Ask me if I got that Mani/Pedi I needed after moving (I have skin picking issues)… nope. Ask me if I've seen a Doctor or Dentist in the last 3 years… nope. Why do we let ourself fade? Why do we elevate everyone else's existence in SPITE of our own? Let's go now… – – Make an appointment for you. Go see that therapist you've been wanting to see, or that much needed mammogram you've been putting off, get your nails done, have coffee with a friend, color your hair, take a long (locked door) shower when your mom/friend/sister comes to visit. Go take that shit in silence. Don't feel guilty for making time for you. – – – – #mommingwithtruth #stillagoodmom #findpeace #babiesaretheworst #kidsaretheworst #showerinpeace #peaceformom #selfcare #howtoloveyourself #lovethecreation #findtimeforyourself #selfcareisnotselfish #momcare ##mombod #maternalmentalhealth #maternalmentalhealthmatters #maternalmentalhealthadvocate #postpartumdepressionsurvivor #postpartummooddisorder #postpartumdepression

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For more drawings, follow @mommingwithtruth 👉 Why do we feel so much guilt for not wanting to spend every second of the day consuming the chaos and constant chatter of our children?! My mother (being raised on a farm with 16 brothers and sisters.. yes, 16) was told as a child to play outside until dark. I was told as a child to play outside until the street lights turn on. We may not be able to do that in our current situation, but you can look at how involved you have been and remind yourself that you don’t have to be present in all the moments. – IT’S OK – Just because Susan seems to have fun with her kids taking a bath doesn’t mean you have to like it. This doesn’t make you a bad mother, it makes you human. Listen to the inner voice that’s telling you to take a break. – – If you are feeling isolated, alone, and feel like nobody understands the pain you are feeling through motherhood, reach out. We are a community of imPERFECT moms willing to support one another. Comment, respond to other comments, and express a time when you felt guilty for not wanting to be with your sweet kiddos. – – – #mommingwithtruth #stillagoodmom #motherhoodunderstood #bekindtoyourself #bathtime #kidsaretheworst #postpartumdepressionsurvivor #postpartumdepression #postpartumanxiety #depressedmom #mommingsohard #momminghard #momstruggles #momcommunity #imperfectmomsquad #imperfectmom #imperfectlyperfect #strongertogether

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👩‍🎨 @mommingwithtruth 👉It’s ok to say no… so why do we feel guilt for it? Is it because we spend most of our day in our heads wondering why things are so tough? Is it that we have no help and we are exhausted? Is it because we’ve been in survival mode and have been saying no to everything? No to the zoo or pool, no to having friends over or going to friends, no to the puppy and new toys we can’t afford and don’t want to clean or manage, and even no to the time they want from us to play one on one. – – 1. Self care is not selfish. It is ok to be something beyond motherhood. Find your calling. TAKE moments for yourself. – 2. Invest in yourself. Executives invest in their business and even their workers. Invest in yourself and your dreams. -Maybe think about some trades— give up smoking to pay for a sitter. Give up the dinner once per month to pay for coffee shop dates with yourself or a friend. – – 3. Listen to uplifting information. Our minds are filled with enough lies, fill it with truths. #oprahssupersoulconversations is one of my favorites alone with #craiggroeschelleadershippodcast – – This way, one of those no’s can be a yes. I’m definitely saying no to a puppy, but going to say yes to some one on one play time. I’m also going to say yes to some hot tub time 😜where I can think through the #Patreon launch and updating my website. – – Start a conversation about why it’s ok to say no. – – #stillagoodmom #mommingwithtruth #kidsaretheworst #itsoktosayno #selfcareisnotselfish #findyourpurpose #purposebeyondparenting #purposebeyondmotherhood #momconversations #momguilt #postpartumdepressionsurvivor #postpartumdepreasion

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Follow @mommingwithtruth 👉My next post will discuss my 10k giveaway details!! STAY TUNED!! In the mean time, here’s a re-draw of one of my drawings I lost after my iPad flew off my car on the highway because I was preoccupied with getting fussy kids in the car. 😪 I lost about 20-40 drawings forever. Luckily I shared many of them with you! – – – So, let’s talk about the elephant in the room shall we?! How many of us have lost our nerve in front of or because of our kids? 🙋‍♀️ We create routines, give choices, kiss their soft cheeks and tuck them into bed only to hear them goofing, crying, yelling for another hour or even longer. THIS IS NOT ABOUT CRY IT OUT, so let me stop your thoughts there. This… THIS is about the moment you feel like you are about to lose your cool. By the end of the day, I have exhausted all my “good mom” tricks. It’s like running on empty but not being able to fill the tank and being forced to run another mile. – – YOU ARE NOT ALONE! We all get to that point. I’ve identified the time of day I tend to lose my cool and try to remember to do something for me BEFORE that last stretch of the day. What do you do to prevent losing your sh*t? When you do, do you remember to take a breath? Do you give yourself grace? Do you move forward? Leave a comment and feel free to encourage one another. – – – #momshelpingmoms #momcommunity #letstalkaboutit #mommingwithtruth #stillagoodmom #gothefucktosleep #gotheefftosleep #breathe #mommytime #cryingbaby #mommingishard #giveyourselfgrace #yourestillagoodmom #postnataldepression #postpartumdepression #postpartumdepressionsurvivor

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👩‍🎨: @mommingwithtruth 👉 5 years ago I dreamt of homeschooling my children. With a degree in education, I thought it would be easy. I thought I would enjoy being home with my kids every day. I thought I would enjoy being responsible for creating moments of inspiration, creativity, and learning. I didn’t know how intensive and isolating it would turn out to be. It is not for everyone, and that is ok. Do I believe it would be best for my kids to be with and learn from their parents who love them unconditionally. Sure… but not from parents who are depleted and parenting from a place of exhaustion. – – 1 year ago, Adeline was accepted into a early Headstart program #projecteagle leaving me time to build this business. Moving out of state means losing this program. I don’t know where God is taking us and have no idea what tomorrow will bring, but I do feel my mental health is at a place where we can figure it out. – – 👉Having childcare, I believe made me a better mother. I was able to figure myself out and work on something I’m passionate about without feeling guilty for ignoring my kids. Knowing my kids were safe and had activities gave me confidence that I was going the right thing for our family. If you have childcare, you shouldn’t feel less than as a mom. It makes you capable. 💪💪💪 – – #mommingwithtruth #stillagoodmom #childcare #childcarecanbethedeepestselfcare #yougotthismama

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